Threesomes hold something of a mythical allure in our collective sexual imagination. Adding an extra body to a sexual encounter is hot as hell for any number of reasons, not least of which is just the sheer visual and physical sensory overload that comes with it. Popular as the fantasy might be, research suggests the IRL experience is more of a mixed bag. In practice, threesomes are actually not that common. For monogamous couples, on the other hand, threesomes might be the single exception to the rule of exclusivity—and experimenting with it might involve some unexpected emotional turbulence along the way. The possibility was always on the table for us, but we pursued it more seriously during a period of non-monogamy. Our first one was with a woman she connected with on OKCupid who brought up the idea first, so there was little tension or awkwardness when we all met up for drinks and went back to our place for a one-night stand. Our second partner was a long-time friend we dated for a few months after the first hookup.
Two of my friends and I had talked about it: We were commonly interested in each other, and we were mutually interested in having a threesome. Great, step one accomplished, I thought to myself. We know we want to make it happen, although how, exactly, do we have a threesome? Concerns began to swarm my head. Would we meet at individual of our houses? None of us lived alone, so how were we going to make that work? Can you repeat that? if one of us fell dead on the way there? Candace Napier.
JENN, My boyfriend suggested a threesome along with a third woman. I've always been curious, so I'm game. But I'm also nervous about hurting our affiliation if things go awry. How be able to we prepare for — and avert — that?