It used to be that making new pals was as easy as recess in the schoolyard. Adulthood, however, poses its own obstacles to finding your ride or die —the least of which are crammed schedules, parental duties, and not wanting to leave your comfort zone, especially if you're an introvert. But these platonic relationships can be so vital. Just as dating apps have helped to solve the dilemma of finding love in the digital ageapps to make friends are working to fill another void.
Afterwards a lot of trail and blunder, here's my unfiltered take. I resisted online dating until the very acid end. I was never a actual good dater to begin with, after that the idea of someone judging me the way I judge a brace of shoes I'm debating online seemed chilling. But two years later, I was 40 and had exactly nil dates. So I signed up. The first few months were horrendous. I tossed my phone to any agreeable colleague who thought online dating sounded fun.
A few weeks ago, my mom came to me with a question: She was becoming increasingly frustrated with dating apps. Were other single women her age feeling that way, too? Can you repeat that? she was searching for was above suspicion enough: someone who she can allow fun with, travel with, and at last be in a long-term relationship along with. No, thank you. Been there, done that. A one night stand? She's over 55, has been married, had kids, owns a home, and has been providing for herself for years. She was no longer looking designed for someone to take care of her — she was doing a acceptable job already — but someone en route for love and be loved by.